Stop Being Nice To Women Do This Instead

October 15, 2026

Treat women as equals and humans rather than placing them on a pedestal, while practicing assertiveness and setting clear boundaries.

According to the search results, the consensus on “stopping being nice” is not to become rude or aggressive, but to stop being a “people pleaser” or a “doormat.” Key recommendations include:

See them as humans: Stop viewing women as objects of desire or as people who exist solely to validate you. Treat them as flawed individuals with their own lives, similar to how you would treat a male friend.
Be Assertive: Use “I” statements to express your needs and opinions clearly. Do not apologize for having boundaries or for saying “no” when a request conflicts with your schedule or values.
Have Your Own Life: Maintain your own interests, hobbies, and social circles. Do not make a woman your sole focus or be constantly available; this creates a sense of mystery and higher value.
Stop Seeking Approval: Do not offer excessive kindness, gifts, or emotional support in exchange for romantic or sexual access. Be genuine and honest about your intentions rather than performing “niceness” to gain favor.
Be Congruent: Only do things you genuinely want to do. If you do not want to do something (e.g., a specific date activity), say so, rather than pretending to enjoy it to keep the other person happy.

What Does The KJV Bible Say?

The concept of “Stop Being Nice to Women, Do This Instead” is frequently popularized in modern relationships and psychological discourse. It challenges superficial, approval-seeking behavior—often referred to as “Nice Guy Syndrome”—and advocates for boundaries, self-respect, and truth.

From a biblical, theological, and psychological standpoint, this shift does not mean adopting cruelty. Rather, it means replacing manipulative people-pleasing with authentic strength and love.

10 Examples of “Nice” vs. “Biblically Substantive” Action

The following table outlines ten contrasts between generic “niceness” (seeking approval) and constructive, principled actions grounded in character.

#	The “Nice” Approach (Approval Seeking)	The Constructive/Biblical Alternative (Do This Instead)	Core Outcome
1	Suppressing opinions to avoid conflict.	Speaking the truth in love (Ephesians 4:15).	Builds mutual trust
2	Enabling destructive habits by remaining silent.	Offering gentle restoration (Galatians 6:1).	Promotes genuine spiritual growth
3	Basing self-worth entirely on her approval.	Finding security in identity in Christ (Galatians 1:10).	Establishes personal stability
4	Failing to establish boundaries, inviting resentment.	Letting your “Yea” be “Yea” (Matthew 5:37).	Prevents emotional burnout
5	Using superficial flattery to win favor.	Using speech that edifies (Ephesians 4:29).	Fosters sincere communication
6	Compromising principles to maintain peace.	Standing firm in moral integrity (1 Corinthians 16:13).	Earns foundational respect
7	Fearing her anger or rejection above all.	Fearing God over man (Proverbs 29:25).	Develops profound inner courage
8	Pretending to have no desires or expectations.	Communicating intentionally and directly.	Eliminates manipulative ambiguity
9	Withholding tough feedback to avoid hurting feelings.	Delivering faithful wounds of a friend (Proverbs 27:6).	Deepens relationship maturity
10	Resenting her after overextending yourself.	Giving cheerfully out of strength (2 Corinthians 9:7).	Keeps the dynamic free of hidden debts

King James Version (KJV) Scriptural Analysis

The King James Bible heavily contrasts the empty, dangerous nature of purely flattering words with the enduring value of integrity and respectful boundaries.

Proverbs 27:6 – “Faithful are the wounds of a friend; but the kisses of an enemy are deceitful.” Genuine, respectful correction holds more real value than superficial, pleasing gestures that mask a lack of true conviction.
Proverbs 29:25 – “The fear of man bringeth a snare: but whoso putteth his trust in the Lord shall be safe.” Altering one’s character entirely to cater to another person’s immediate emotions creates a relational trap.
Galatians 1:10 – “For do I now persuade men, or God? or do I seek to please men? for if I yet pleased men, I should not be the servant of Christ.” A life driven primarily by people-pleasing compromises a man’s ultimate accountability to higher spiritual principles.
Ephesians 4:15 – “But speaking the truth in love, may grow up into him in all things, which is the head, even Christ.” True love is inseparable from reality. “Nice” behavior that hides the truth is ultimately unloving.

Analyst Perspectives & Framework Reports

1. Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI) Structural Report

The Trap: High-agreeableness or feeling-dominant types (such as ENFJ or INFJ) may instinctively rely on hyper-accommodation to preserve harmony, often mistaking obedience for connection.
The Recommendation: MBTI analysis stresses the integration of the Thinking (T) function. Men must balance their auxiliary or dominant Feeling traits with objective logic, stating clear boundaries and evaluating dynamics on structural reality rather than fleeting emotional states.

2. John MacArthur Analyst Report

The Trap: MacArthur’s teaching targets the cultural pacification of masculinity, warning against a superficial “niceness” that minimizes biblical truth for the sake of avoiding societal friction.
The Recommendation: A man’s primary calling is spiritual leadership, modeled on sacrificial love rather than passive appeasement. True affection mirrors Christ’s love for the Church—disciplined, protective, grounded in holy standards, and utterly unconcerned with winning superficial approval through compromise.

3. Paul Washer Analyst Report

The Trap: Washer sharply critiques superficial morality and the modern desire for cultural validation, viewing codependent people-pleasing as a symptom of a weak spiritual foundation.
The Recommendation: True biblical manhood demands absolute transparency and repentance. A man must stop relying on worldly manipulation or dynamic charm. Instead, he must cultivate severe, quiet integrity, viewing passivity not as a virtue, but as a failure to lead courageously.

4. Greg Schad Analyst Report

The Trap: As a seasoned clinical therapist operating from a Christian perspective, Greg Schad identifies “niceness” as a coping mechanism within dysfunctional family systems. Individuals often bury their true identity to navigate relational anxiety or avoid conflict.
The Recommendation: True health requires differentiation of self—the capacity to remain deeply connected to a partner while firmly maintaining individual moral boundaries and emotional autonomy. True relational maturity means moving past protective people-pleasing into vulnerable, honest communication.

5. Jordan Peterson Analyst Report

The Trap: Peterson explicitly addresses the danger of being a “harmless nice guy”. He notes that an inability to say “no” or engage in constructive conflict stems from cowardice, not virtue, and inevitably leads to deep internal resentment.
The Recommendation: Men must develop competence and voluntary capacity for aggression, then bring it under strict conscious control. True respect is built when a man is strong enough to be dangerous but chooses discipline and truth instead, providing a reliable partner rather than an easily manipulated doormat.

6. Carl Jung Analyst Report

The Trap: Jungian analysis views chronic niceness as a projection of the Persona—a carefully curated social mask designed to hide a man’s real shadows and vulnerabilities to secure safety.
The Recommendation: A man must undergo individuation by confronting and integrating his Shadow (the repressed, assertive, and primal aspects of his psyche). By acknowledging his capacity for anger and power, he sheds the fragile persona of “niceness,” allowing an authentic, unified, and genuinely resilient ego to emerge.

As You seek understanding and clarity in your life you should always turn to your Heavenly Father for Guidance

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Leave there thy gift before the altar, and go thy way; first be reconciled to thy brother, and then come and offer thy gift. -MATTHEW 5:24 KJV

Are You Your Own Worst Enemy?

I would start out by saying what Jesus Christ would want us to do? Pray and how should we pray? The Lord’s Prayer, and how often should we pray? Continually. Why do we use the Lord’s Prayer and not some other? The Lord’s Prayer covers all the areas that is important for our spiritual being.

When we pray the Lords prayer we ask to forgive our enemies, let God’s will be done, the kingdom to come. By praying the Lord’s prayer we let go of many thoughts we have in our head and give them back to God so we can have things revealed to us.

We must overcome resentment in our heart, and in a past video I shared about Dr. Jordan Peterson talks about how resentment can destroy us and we become our own very worst enemy and Jordan goes on to say that we must talk to people what we have resentment toward to overcome that resentment. Other people who lived in the past who talked about this is Jesus Christ and someone who is living now who talks about this daily is Brother Augustine, Dr. John MacArthur, Dr. Charles Stanley, Rev. John Piper and Pastor Paul Washer.

Women are looking for a fathers love

Women are looking for a fathers love. Its important that men understand women are looking for a fathers love and not get screwed. Woman more than anything are looking for a strong spiritual man to lead the future (the family). I think in many YouTube videos on biblical teachings, how young women are being hurt by men that are just looking to get laid instead of doing right and being in Christ and setting a good example of a strong man. We must be in Christ, hate no one, love all, forgave theses we resent, love what is right and support people who are walking with God.

Women need their fathers in their lives to be strong man to be good examples and not BETA men or weak examples of what a man should be. Its important that a man leads the way as Christ leads men, we as man need to fellow Jesus Christ to keep society from going to HELL.

Every day you can see or people watch how some men and women our living in hell without the right spiritual order then you will continue your hellish way according to 2 Peter. You can also find it in Romans. God will give you over to a reprobate mind.

And even as they did not like to retain God in their knowledge, God gave them over to a reprobate mind, to do those things which are not convenient. – Romans 1:28 (KJV)

In Romans 1, Paul refers to something known as a reprobate mind. If you’re not familiar with the term reprobate, the literal definition in the Greek is failing to pass the test, unapproved, counterfeit.

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How God Commands Us To Forgive Those Who We Have Resentment Toward.

All of us are tested everyday by our personal internal struggle coming from resentment of what happened earlier in our lives as children typically what our mother did to us, telling how our fathers were not good enough or driving us away from our fathers when we were children. We most go to the people that we have resentment against and forgive them. By forgiving our mothers or whoever we have resentment against, God will forgive us and we can return to the heavenly Father through our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ.

It was said if you don’t love everyone then you love no one. People today live like the Old Testament people did. We must forgive and love everyone as God Commanded us to do according to Matthew 22:34-40.

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