How the Way You Look at Someone Changes Who They Become | David Brooks
David Brooks argues in his book How to Know a Person that the way we look at someone is a profoundly creative act that actively shapes their identity and behavior. He categorizes people into “Illuminators” and “Diminishers” based on their attention: Illuminators make others feel seen, valued, and “lit up,” thereby bringing out their best selves, while Diminishers dismiss or judge others, causing …